Referring back to the post about divorce and transformation, I think the one thing that makes a relationship work is vulnerability. It’s also the one part of divorce that makes it so incredibly difficult. Being vulnerable means being open and loving- it’s the way to live. It’s about inviting change, jumping into something new and and being okay with feeling uncomfortable. We are vulnerable with our intimate partners and it’s another type of vulnerability to go through the process of divorce. It lays it all out on the table, the love, commitment, differences in thinking, the frustrations in the marriage, the differences in how we raise children. It’s about being kind to yourself and being generous to your soon to be ex-partner.
This quote by Helen Keller says it all: “Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all.” Please take a moment to check out this video from the TED Talks series with Bréne Brown on Vulnerability. It’s about 20 minutes, but worth it.